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The art of idling and learning to fully rest

The art of idling and learning to fully rest

When we are in recovery from anxiety or depression we need to learn to fully rest and let go. I often work with clients who find this a challenge, they busy themselves with to do lists and appointments. When we fully let go of the things we feel we need to do, we can...

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Facing your demons and overcoming extreme anxiety situations

Facing your demons and overcoming extreme anxiety situations

We all have to face situations in our lives that we know are going to cause us a lot of anxiety. It might be an exam, travelling, operation, a family party or difficult work meeting. For those who already suffer from anxiety it can be very daunting to know that these...

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The Stories We Tell Ourselves

The Stories We Tell Ourselves

Recently I have begun to notice that it is the stories we tell ourselves that are often the most powerful. It had been a busy time but I was keen to visit a really good friend in a nearby town. I had a few things to juggle on the day so I needed to know what time she...

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Toxic Relationships

Toxic Relationships

Many people come in to therapy in the midst of a relationship which is causing them pain and anguish. This relationship might be with a parent, family member or a partner, all of them equally difficult.  The common theme is that these relationships make them feel...

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A Time to Dream

A Time to Dream

I often get clients in therapy who seem disturbed and upset by their dreams. I really enjoy introducing them to the ways in which we can gain wisdom and even comfort from our dreams, they can be truly transformational. I remember having a little book when I was a...

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Heart Centred Living

Many people feel that when they come in to therapy they will be using their mind a lot. In some ways that is exactly what we do, we learn to look at and manage difficult thoughts, especially if they cause us anxiety.  We become aware that the mind and our thoughts are...

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Feeling fearful and why we need to learn to ‘lean in’

Anxiety has this way of bleeding in to every part of our lives and before we know it we are avoiding things that might trigger our anxiety.  It feels counter intuitive, but gently 'leaning in' to those things that may make us anxious is the best way to work through...

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Why do I need to talk about my childhood?

This is a question I get asked constantly by clients first entering counselling. "I survived" a client once said to me with a big shrug "why does it matter, let's move on". The reason therapists are so interested in childhood is because it is where we develop our...

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At the end of the day gratitude matters

At the end of the day gratitude matters

Many of us are reeling from all the turmoil and horror in the world right now. It may take a bit of imagination but stepping back and focusing on those things we feel grateful for might help us refind our balance. A few years ago I worked with a woman who had a...

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Why we need to talk about suicidal thoughts

The fact that I had to think long and hard before I decided to write about suicide in this blog, makes me fully aware that there is still a huge stigma around suicidal thoughts and ideation. Yet I have had a large number of clients over the years, who have suicidal...

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Being connected and why it matters to mental health

One of the first things I notice about clients who suffer from depression or anxiety is that they often avoid being around other people. For some they find others needs exhausting, for some they feel they might bring people down with their low mood. However as we...

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Bereavement and Anxiety

A past client once said the me that bereavement was like being on a rollercoaster, you never knew what was coming next. Anxiety is not necessarily a feeling we might associate with grief but for many coming in to counselling, it seems a very common feeling and can be...

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