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Being connected and why it matters to mental health

Being connected and why it matters to mental health

One of the first things I notice about clients who suffer from depression or anxiety is that they often avoid being around other people. Some find others needs exhausting and some feel they might bring people down with their low mood. Overall there is a feeling that...

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Growing inner resource and resilience in stormy times

Growing inner resource and resilience in stormy times

Some people seem to be able to bounce back from difficult situations with no trouble at all. For most of us though, it is a much more challenging undertaking and we have all taken some emotional knocks over the last few years. Growing inner emotional resilience is a...

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Learning to embrace the seasons

Learning to embrace the seasons

As the days get shorter and the nights draw in, we start to feel the Winter approaching. As someone who loves the sun, as soon as it starts to loose its warmth, I start to feel such loss, wishing it had been a longer more productive Summer (it is never long enough for...

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Learning to love your inner child

Learning to love your inner child

"Why do I need to talk about my childhood?" This is a question I often get asked by clients first entering counselling. "I survived" a client once said to me with a big shrug, "why does it matter, let's move on". The reason therapists are so interested in childhood is...

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Why Hope helps

Why Hope helps

During my Summer travels I came accross a project to leave stones around a local village with messages of hope and love written on them. I found it so inspiring that you could just pick up the stone and hold on to it, taking in the message, then placing it somewhere...

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The signs of emotional overwhelm

The signs of emotional overwhelm

Being aware of our emotional load and knowing when it's becoming too much is a careful balancing act. Physical overwhelm is probably easier to recognise for most of us; back pain or a headache which means we have to stop and take notice, even go to bed. Emotional...

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Is your anxiety holding you back from travelling?

Is your anxiety holding you back from travelling?

Travelling and holidays are mostly seen as great ways to relax and recuperate. However as the Summer holiday time arrives, I have clients who are finding it all incredibly stressful and very triggering for their anxiety. So how can something we all seem to long for...

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The art of idling; learning to fully rest

The art of idling; learning to fully rest

When we are in recovery from mental or physical illness, we need to learn to fully rest and let go in order to start to feel well. I often work with clients who find this a challenge, they busy themselves with to do lists and appointments. In many ways they are too...

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The ebb and flow of our mental health

The ebb and flow of our mental health

I am often asked by clients when they will be better, when they will recover and be fully themselves again after struggles with their mental illness.  This question is a deeply complex one and very relevant indeed in Mental Health Awareness Week. Mental health for me...

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Menopause and our emotions

Menopause and our emotions

The list of symptoms of the menopause range from dry skin to hot flushes, but a lesser known side effect is anxiety and low mood. The levels of anxiety reported by women in perimenopause and menopause, are seen to be on the rise and often come at what can be a very...

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Setting Boundaries

Setting Boundaries

We use the word boundaries a lot, without really thinking of its implications and what it truly means. We just know we should have them and many of us don't! Brené Brown says that boundaries are simply "What is ok for you and what isn't". This appeals to me because...

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Challenging Relationships

Challenging Relationships

Many people come in to therapy in the midst of a relationship which is causing them overwhelming difficult feelings. This relationship might be with a parent, family member, friend or love partner, all of them are equally difficult. The common theme is often that...

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