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How to work with challenging relationships in therapy
Many people come in to therapy to find support in relationships which are causing them really difficult feelings. This relationship might be with a parent, family member, friend or love partner, all of them are equally challenging. The common theme is often that these...
Self compassion in times of stress
We all go through times of crisis in our lives. Extreme stress and overwhelm are brought on by many things in our busy lives and it's so useful to know what to do to soothe yourself. Many of my clients have said its really helpful to know what's happening in our...
Why Hope helps
This is the time of year when I think many of us are struggling a bit. I don't know if it's the lack of light or just the world at the moment, but it's tough. I find myself very stuck and irritated, wanting to escape to the sun or in to my netflix. I realised today I...
How to set yourself up for a fulfilling New Year
In a previous career, I often used to write articles for women's magazines entitled; "New Year, New you!" at this time of year. These always made me sigh (inwardly), but I always tried my best to put a bit of a spin on them and ended up with lots of things to give up...
Protecting Your Precious Energy this winter
Most of us have felt at some time that we are tired of giving all our energy away to others, leaving us feeling exhausted and depleted, especially at the moment. I have noticed, as have many of my clients, that this constant background anxiety from the Christmas...
Learning to love your inner child
"Why do I need to talk about my childhood?" This is a question I often get asked by clients first entering counselling. "I survived" a client once said to me with a big shrug, "why does it matter, let's move on". I completely see his point but the reason therapists...
How to support yourself in burnout
At some point in our lives we can all enter some form of burnout, physical, emotional or combined. Most of us can resonate with overwhelm and exhaustion but If you, or someone you love or care for is Neurodivergent, you may notice how exhausted and wrung out you (or...
Transitioning with the seasons
As the days get shorter and the nights draw in, we start to feel Winter approaching. As someone who loves the sun, as soon as it starts to loose its warmth, I start to feel such loss, wishing it had been a longer more productive Summer 🌞 (it is never long enough for...
What needs to be in place to start effective therapy
I often get approached by clients who are really keen to start therapy but are unsure if it's the right time for them. It's a really tough one to answer but I always list these three states and ask them to reflect on them: 1. Headspace: if you are in the midst of lots...
Learning to explore and accept how we feel
If we are looking for ways to help us change the relationship we have with ourselves, beginning to connect to our feelings is a great place to start. Feelings are the compass to our world, and if we ignore them, we risk being disconnected from our unmet needs and...
The many ways grief impacts us
As a past client once said the me; "Bereavement is like being on a rollercoaster, you never knew what is coming next" She had developed severe anxiety and insomnia for the first time in her life, her overwhelm and loss was impacting her ability to do simple tasks....
Searching for Neurodiverse affirming therapy
Searching for a therapist that aligns with you is incredibly hard. It is such an important and vulnerable making relationship, so it needs to be right for you. As a Neurodiverse individual it is even more vital that this therapist is informed and aware of what you...