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Setting Boundaries
We all use the word boundaries a lot, without really thinking of its implications and what it truly means. Brené Brown says that boundaries are simply "What is ok for you and what isn't". This appeals to me because it helps me analyse what boundaries I need in my...
Self esteem and confidence bank
Many people come in to therapy looking for ways to radiate more confidence in their lives, it is certainly a quality many of us feel we would like more of. In my regular Wellbeing Workshops, it is also the most popular session I teach and most requested by companies...
Learning to embrace the seasons
As the days get shorter and the nights draw in, we start to feel the Winter approaching. I am someone who loves the sun and as soon as it starts to loose its warmth, I start to feel such loss, wishing it had been a longer more productive Summer (it is never long...
Why we need to talk about suicidal thoughts
The fact that I had to think long and hard before I decided to write about suicide in this blog, makes me fully aware that there is still a huge stigma around suicidal thoughts and ideation. Yet I have had a large number of clients over the years, who have suicidal...
Building inner resource and resilience
This image really struck me as the tree seems to be thriving, despite its very precarious home! Some people also seem to be able to bounce back from difficult situations with no trouble at all, for most of us though, it is much more challenging. Building resilience is...
Menopause and our emotions
The list of symptoms of the menopause range from dry skin to hot flushes, but a lesser known side effect is anxiety and low mood. The levels of anxiety reported by women in perimenopause and menopause, are seen to be on the rise and often come at what can be a very...
Feeling fearful and why we need to learn to ‘lean in’
I know many of you will have noticed how anxiety has this way of bleeding in to every part of our lives and before we know it we are avoiding things that might trigger our anxiety. It feels counter intuitive, but gently 'leaning in' to those things with compassion...
Loving compassion meditation
I have developed this meditation to help you cultivate self love and compassion. Take a listen and learn some practical ways to learn to love and accept yourself. I hope you enjoy it!
Heart Centred Living
Many people feel that when they come in to therapy they will be using their mind a lot. In some ways that is exactly what we do, we learn to look at and manage difficult thoughts, especially if they cause us anxiety. We become aware that the mind and our thoughts are...
At the end of the day gratitude matters
Many of us are reeling from all the turmoil and horror in the world right now. It may take a bit of imagination but stepping back and focusing on those things we feel grateful for might help us rediscover our inner balance. Research has shown that gratitude as a...
Respecting what is broken and scarred in our story
Many of us go in to therapy feeling broken and scarred by our past experiences, clients often ask if therapy will enable them to rewrite their story and put sad events behind them. Put simply we can certainly learn to be with painful experiences by talking about them...
How boundaries can set us free
We all bandy about the word boundaries a lot, without really thinking of its implications and what it might truly mean to us in our lives. Brené Brown says "When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we...