Many of the people I work with aren’t in life crisis.
That surprises people. They’re not falling apart.
They’re doing fine, on paper. Job’s alright. House is alright. Marriage is working, but underneath it something’s off that they can’t name.
There’s no word for that, which is half the problem. It’s hard to tell people you’re struggling when nothing is actually seemingly wrong.
I’d call it rubbing up against your own life. Not quite in alignment with it.
And usually there’s a story underneath that goes like this. You got the thing. Whatever your version was; the money, the house, the promotion, the relationship.
We’re all raised to believe that’s the answer. Get comfortable. Get safe then you can live.
Then you get there, and you don’t feel any different. Or worse you feel quietly disappointed.
You’ll have heard someone say the money didn’t fix me. I think they’ve got the word wrong.
It should be: the comfort didn’t fix me.
And it gets easier every year not to notice. There’s always something on. Something to scroll. Something to buy, something to make us busy.
We’ve drifted a long way from what it means to be human. Not dramatically. Comfortably. Which is much harder to spot.
If that’s roughly where you are, I’d say this. You’re not broken and you’re not behind. You’re just further away from something than you used to be.
The fantastic thing about therapy is that we welcome discomfort. It’s a gift to feel that we need to change, to challenge ourselves and slowly rediscover who we are.
Get in touch to arrange your discovery call and see how therapy might help.